Most
breakups are terribly painful, particularly for the partner that
didn�t want the breakup. Something that the partners left behind
should remember is that not all breakups are permanent. Sometimes all
it takes is a little effort and work to get your boyfriend
to return to you. Actually, the renewed relationship can be even
better than the original one.
Start
by showing that you�ve learned something from past mistakes.
Closely examine how things went the first time around and pay
attention to the complaints your ex may have had about you. Most of
these probably didn�t make sense to you, but there will be some
that you�ll need to admit are valid ones. Forget about the
complaints you didn�t understand and focus on the ones that you
feel are justified.
Do
things to make him remember why he loved you. Try to recall the
person you used to be at that time and compare her to the person you
were at the end of the relationship. The person you want to become
again is the one that he fell in love with. Focus on reviving any
positive attitudes that turned negative. Not only will you become
attractive to your ex again, but you�ll become stronger and more
independent.
Even
though your breakup has been very hard on you, be a supportive
friend to your ex. While showing him that you�re a bigger person
than most by being able to do this, you�ll also be showing him that
your support is limited to only that of a friend now. You should
start ending phone conversations first because you�ve got plans.
He�ll remember that was a time when he had all the support he
needed from you.
Win
over his friends and you may see a renewed interest from him. If you
can get his friends to like you, they�ll start asking him how he
could let someone like you slip through his fingers. That can also
start him wondering the same thing.
Memories
can also be a strong help. If you were together a while, you�ve
probably got a lot of very wonderful and loving memories that you
made together. Find ways to make him recall some of these without
making it look obvious. You can do this by recreating certain events
or activities that were a part of special moments in your
relationship.
Of
course, you should also look your best when you know you�re going
to run into him. Be very positive, too, without overdoing it. Let
your pleasant side come out so that he can see what he�s been
missing. On the other hand, avoid making drunken phone calls to
him.
Finally,
make sure that getting him back is what you really want. You might be
spending so much energy on getting back this ex-boyfriend that you�ve
completely missed seeing that this amazing new guy keeps trying to
get you to notice him. So consider this very carefully. After
all, an ex is an ex for a reason. But if you still want him, then
think positively and take action.
By Max Taylor