Too
many people enter the dating game not fully sure of what they
actually want to get out of it. Granted, most women are hoping to
find Mr. Right so they can get married, settle down and start a
family. However, not all women are looking
for that type of relationship. Many are simply looking for
someone that they can have fun with and relate to on an equal
footing. Others only want someone to have a physical relationship
with and aren�t actually interested in being involved with
anyone.
Nothing
is wrong with any of those reasons for dating. In fact, if all people
wanted the exact same things in life, this would be a rather boring
world to live in. Everyone is different in their own way and that�s
what makes things interesting. However, if you�re looking for a
particular type of relationship, it�s only fair that you let
potential partners know exactly what you�re looking for. In that
way, if you�re someone that wants the white picket fence, you won�t
waste your time and the time of someone that only wants to date
casually. It also keeps you from getting your feelings hurt.
Also,
consider the age group that you�ll fall into when looking for a
great person to date. Like it or not, there are certain things that
each age group is looking for in the majority. For instance, if
you�re in your mid -30s, you�re probably going to find that there
are a lot of divorced people in this group. They�ve already done
the marriage and family thing and will usually come with some
�extras,� such as children. So if you want to find Mr. Right and
settle down but aren�t
necessarily looking for a ready made family, you probably want to
get that clear from the outset.
Younger
age groups are still in that phase of just having some fun. They want
to party, take trips and just have fun in general when they�re not
working. The people that fall into this group are typically not
looking for anything truly serious, although they�re starting to
understand that they�ll need to be a bit more particular in their
dating partners. It just depends on which side of 25 they are.
Older
groups such as 40, 50 and 60 years old are usually not hoping to
start a family, especially women because by the time they hit 50
they�re going to have to adopt if they want children. Some men like
the idea of being a father later in life but most are ready to start
enjoying the things that having a career for several years has
enabled them to do. They want to travel extensively and just enjoy
life.
Then
there�s the group that contains all ages. These can get a bit dicey
because you can have a 45 year old woman dating a 25 year old man and
their future plans can be totally different. On the other hand, they
can be very similar in the present but change drastically in the
future. So you need to be careful with that.
The
most important thing is that, no matter what your age, you�re clear
about the things you want in a relationship. Then there can be no
misunderstandings later.
By Max Taylor