Typically, you can tell when you�re in a relationship
that�s really going nowhere, and you can feel when you�re ready to end
that relationship. While it�s always good to know where you stand, it�s
also wise to realize when the time of the break up is not right.
Obviously, breaking up is never going to be easy, but you can make it
even worse by choosing the wrong time to end a relationship.
For
instance, birthdays are TERRIBLE times to break up with someone. So if
you know that you�re going to end a relationship, please do so well
BEFORE his birthday or well AFTER it. If you choose the day before, of,
or the day after his birthday to break up, it will always leave a bad
feeling with him. Every birthday is going to remind him that his
relationship ended at that time. So, if you can manage it, time the
break up so that it�s a decent amount of time on either side of his
birthday and never, ever make it on the birthday itself.
Another
awful break up day is Valentine�s Day. This is the day for lovers and
couples to celebrate every year. If you decide to end your relationship
on this day, you run the risk of ruining it for him for a very long
time, if not forever. That�s why knowing when you�re ready to leave a
relationship is a good thing as you can time the break up for a day that
doesn�t mean anything to either of you.
Holidays should never be
used to end a relationship for many reasons. Obviously, one of them is
that this particular holiday may never be enjoyable again if the break
up is pretty bad. Another reason is that some people tend to buy
expensive and extravagant gifts during the holidays. If you end your
relationship prior to the holidays, you can save both you and your about
to be ex-partner a lot of money because you most likely won�t be buying
gifts for each other. In addition, the holidays just turn into very sad
occasions when a relationship ends during them. This is true of the
days immediately before and after them.
The basic rule of thumb is
to get your break up out of the way as far ahead of any special day as
possible. If you can�t do that, then you should try to grin and bear it
through the special day and wait at least a couple of weeks afterward
before making the big break. In this way, you�re saving someone a lot of
misery that could follow him well into the future. You should be kind
about the timing of your break up.
The exception to this rule is if
your about to be ex is cheating on you and you just found out, or he�s
done something even more horrendous. In cases such as those, he DESERVES
to be miserable for future special days.
